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| Mom in her 70s, with my brother Mike |
Happy Mother's Day to all moms. And tears and tender thoughts to all those who are missing their mothers, to all those who do not feel mothered, and to all mothers who are missing their children.
My (adoptive) mother died in 2001. In her "important papers" box, my brother, sister and I discovered a note labeled "Death: Open in Case of." I am so grateful she wrote it. Whenever I read it, I feel her presence in my heart. Here is a short excerpt:
To my children:
...One is born and one must die. The in-between is probably the most important.
You were my chosen -- the "why" is much too difficult for anyone to explain. Reasons are many and complex, more than the human mind can fathom. I loved you from day one and will love you even after death. Love each other, talk to each other, and -- most important -- pray with and for each other. Pray for understanding, a needed "item." You will need it. If you have difficulty talking, try writing...
Our growing years were valuable. I learned much. You will also if you pray for understanding...
Be sad if you must ... but only for a short while. Remember Mom was lonesome but never lonely, therefore not unhappy. I enjoyed you very much...
Don't forget you are much loved.
Your Mom
